I, a man, would very likely avoid any project using this library. So it's more than "her problem". A name like this is especially degrading to a single group. I

I, a man, would very likely avoid any project using this library. So it's more than "her problem". A name like this is especially degrading to a single group. If I named a library a racial slur, I wouldn't expect people to be happy about it. And I wouldn't expect only people of the "offended" group to complain. It's an affront to the dignity of the F/OSS community to put up with this.