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I liked this and I felt anxiety just reading about it too. I identified with all this SO much I guess it makes me wonder -- is this how everyone is, on some lev

I liked this and I felt anxiety just reading about it too. I identified with all this SO much I guess it makes me wonder -- is this how everyone is, on some level? Is this all deeply human? Or am I really mentally ill and in denial?

dumbfoundded 5y ago
I think everyone is like this to a degree. The difference is how it materializes from the perspective of other people. A mental disorder isn't really considered one until other people start noticing. I think most people grapple with these thoughts as some point. Usually the magnitude is low enough that it's not considered a problem.
- redis_mlc 5y ago
  > I think everyone is like this to a degree. No, they're not. Neo-marxism/post-modernism made our current society that way. Pre-2000, boys were boys, and girls were girls. Everybody acknowledged that the nuclear family was everything. Since then: - there's been a concerted effort to undermine Western society down to the level of the family by Marxists in order to tip over our existing society to seize power for themselves. - the 1981 Adam Walsh kidnapping/murder with ongoing alarmist TV shows by his father scared American parents into confining children indoors. Today if a kid bikes a few miles, social workers show up at the parents' door. Almost never happened before the Walsh case. What people can do who grew up after 2000 is: - be very good at something, so you have internal validation - watch Jordan Peterson videos on Youtube to counterbalance the current false societal narratives - if you're a man, never sign a marriage contract in this era, and learn what the "sisterhood" and "gynocracy" are - if you're a woman, understand your biological clock/anxiety and plan your family/children around that, or you won't have your own family - your career won't love you back. Feminism lied to you. Suzanne Venker has good advice on this. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Adam_Walsh https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Adam_Walsh Hillary Clinton (2016) defining Americans as victims (with no proof) using intersectionalism: https://time.com/4486502/hillary-clinton-basket-of-deplorables-transcript/ https://time.com/4486502/hillary-clinton-basket-of-deplorabl... California leftists trying to combat 'racism' in math classes with CRT (May, 2021) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SF8FKAKZXpY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SF8FKAKZXpY
meken 5y ago
I think the big 5 personality traits are a good lens to view your question. Of the big 5 personality traits, neuroticism and conscientiousness seem the most relevant here, to manifest these behaviors. I think being high in neuroticism and low in conscientiousness are the key markers. Given that everyone is on the neuroticism and conscientiousness spectrums at different points, no, not everyone is like this. Or, rather, some people are so unlike this that it's probably unfathomable to them/they can't comprehend it.
nzmsv 5y ago
A therapist can answer this question impartially. It is almost impossible to answer this correctly for oneself because we are all stuck in our own heads after all. Most people have to hit some sort of major crisis before they finally see a therapist. You could choose not to be part of that statistic.

dumbfoundded 5y ago

I think everyone is like this to a degree. The difference is how it materializes from the perspective of other people. A mental disorder isn't really considered one until other people start noticing. I think most people grapple with these thoughts as some point. Usually the magnitude is low enough that it's not considered a problem.

redis_mlc 5y ago
> I think everyone is like this to a degree. No, they're not. Neo-marxism/post-modernism made our current society that way. Pre-2000, boys were boys, and girls were girls. Everybody acknowledged that the nuclear family was everything. Since then: - there's been a concerted effort to undermine Western society down to the level of the family by Marxists in order to tip over our existing society to seize power for themselves. - the 1981 Adam Walsh kidnapping/murder with ongoing alarmist TV shows by his father scared American parents into confining children indoors. Today if a kid bikes a few miles, social workers show up at the parents' door. Almost never happened before the Walsh case. What people can do who grew up after 2000 is: - be very good at something, so you have internal validation - watch Jordan Peterson videos on Youtube to counterbalance the current false societal narratives - if you're a man, never sign a marriage contract in this era, and learn what the "sisterhood" and "gynocracy" are - if you're a woman, understand your biological clock/anxiety and plan your family/children around that, or you won't have your own family - your career won't love you back. Feminism lied to you. Suzanne Venker has good advice on this. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Adam_Walsh https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Adam_Walsh Hillary Clinton (2016) defining Americans as victims (with no proof) using intersectionalism: https://time.com/4486502/hillary-clinton-basket-of-deplorables-transcript/ https://time.com/4486502/hillary-clinton-basket-of-deplorabl... California leftists trying to combat 'racism' in math classes with CRT (May, 2021) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SF8FKAKZXpY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SF8FKAKZXpY

meken 5y ago

I think the big 5 personality traits are a good lens to view your question. Of the big 5 personality traits, neuroticism and conscientiousness seem the most relevant here, to manifest these behaviors. I think being high in neuroticism and low in conscientiousness are the key markers. Given that everyone is on the neuroticism and conscientiousness spectrums at different points, no, not everyone is like this. Or, rather, some people are so unlike this that it's probably unfathomable to them/they can't comprehend it.

nzmsv 5y ago

A therapist can answer this question impartially. It is almost impossible to answer this correctly for oneself because we are all stuck in our own heads after all. Most people have to hit some sort of major crisis before they finally see a therapist. You could choose not to be part of that statistic.