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So people are insecure about dancing and sex. This all tracks. I wonder if and how things cluster around age, income, country of residence, etc. What I'd real

So people are insecure about dancing and sex. This all tracks. I wonder if and how things cluster around age, income, country of residence, etc. What I'd really be interested in is a set of tags people can click as far as "which of these do you strongly identify with?" And then just have some broad categories that are ostensibly independent such as "investing", "politics", "exercise & fitness", "video or board games", "charity/volunteering", "night clubs/partying", "theater & the arts", "sci-fi or fantasy", "religion", "travelling/siteseeing", "meditation" ... I'd assume most to be total noise but there may be a few interesting strong correlations that could inspire further study.

manwe150 5y ago
Ah, this feels interesting. I would have said I’m a below average dancer, but above average person at dancing. The difference being whether I compare to people who I observe dancing, or consider everyone. Differently for sex, I assume that this is possibly bimodal (none versus some), so this could provide a measure of the actual skew in the underlying distribution (difference between mean and median) and not only the perception of bias.
stared 5y ago
When it comes to sex, technically it is likely to be correct. It is a long tail distribution (see e.g. https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/article/david-spiegelhalter-sex-by-numbers-review-masturbation-sti-homosexuality-virginity-marriage https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/article/david-spiegelhalter-se...). When we take the average, not median - most people land below the average.. Moreover, if you ask your sex partners on the number of partners they have had, on the average their number is higher than yours. Again, it is not that you are a loser - it's the friendship paradox https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship_paradox https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship_paradox.
samatman 5y ago
Not necessarily. It's the average of people playing the game, not reporting on some survey. I saw better than average at maths around 68%... and that might be true for the kind of people who play this game. Dancing and sex might be the same story (didn't see those questions).
globular-toast 5y ago
> So people are insecure about dancing and sex. This all tracks. I reckon this is due to only watching apex males perform those acts. As opposed to maths where you probably remember your classmates struggling and were actually tested for your ability.
- travisjungroth 5y ago
  I think there's also mixing up "less/worse than average" with "less/worse than my share", and an uneven distribution makes those pretty different. There are some very good dancers doing a ton of dancing. So if you dance, it's probably a below average dance even if you're a slightly above average dancer. It might also be why so many people think they lie less than average. There's a minority that just lies their pants off, so most of us are telling less than our "share" of lies.

manwe150 5y ago

Ah, this feels interesting. I would have said I’m a below average dancer, but above average person at dancing. The difference being whether I compare to people who I observe dancing, or consider everyone. Differently for sex, I assume that this is possibly bimodal (none versus some), so this could provide a measure of the actual skew in the underlying distribution (difference between mean and median) and not only the perception of bias.

stared 5y ago

When it comes to sex, technically it is likely to be correct. It is a long tail distribution (see e.g. https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/article/david-spiegelhalter-sex-by-numbers-review-masturbation-sti-homosexuality-virginity-marriage https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/article/david-spiegelhalter-se...). When we take the average, not median - most people land below the average.. Moreover, if you ask your sex partners on the number of partners they have had, on the average their number is higher than yours. Again, it is not that you are a loser - it's the friendship paradox https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship_paradox https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship_paradox.

samatman 5y ago

Not necessarily. It's the average of people playing the game, not reporting on some survey. I saw better than average at maths around 68%... and that might be true for the kind of people who play this game. Dancing and sex might be the same story (didn't see those questions).

globular-toast 5y ago

> So people are insecure about dancing and sex. This all tracks. I reckon this is due to only watching apex males perform those acts. As opposed to maths where you probably remember your classmates struggling and were actually tested for your ability.

travisjungroth 5y ago
I think there's also mixing up "less/worse than average" with "less/worse than my share", and an uneven distribution makes those pretty different. There are some very good dancers doing a ton of dancing. So if you dance, it's probably a below average dance even if you're a slightly above average dancer. It might also be why so many people think they lie less than average. There's a minority that just lies their pants off, so most of us are telling less than our "share" of lies.