Thoughtful discussions should trump that, surely? Downvotes can be a reflection on many things, and wondering which or what, seems to be a fair thing to wonder

Thoughtful discussions should trump that, surely? Downvotes can be a reflection on many things, and wondering which or what, seems to be a fair thing to wonder about. Context is king. After all, the voting system exists to foster positive discussions. What do you suggest is the alternative correct phrasing then? Or are certain honest and curiosity based questions forbidden on HN?