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I worked one jib where the titles were odd. I was a 'Senior member of Technical Staff' Reality was I was a SW team leader / project manager. The job labels o

I worked one jib where the titles were odd. I was a 'Senior member of Technical Staff' Reality was I was a SW team leader / project manager. The job labels on your resume are to frame out what you say you did at the job. If your title and your work do not match, then it will cause issues in matching you to the right job. One place I worked at regularly gave out new titles, same job just a 'new and improved' title. Of course, if you just want to impress your mother, go Engineer. Co-workers DevOps. The hot girl at a party ...

mettamage 5y ago
> The hot girl at a party ... I always say drugs dealer, homeless person, language teacher to camels or internet millionaire. Or whatever I feel like really. Or at least, 10 years ago (long-term relationship). Rationale of the first 2: replace the frame with something ridiculous/lower status. Keep disqualifying yourself to the absurd. Example: selling rainbow pills to little blue smurfs as a drugs dealer? What’s in the rainbow pill she asks? Now you steered the conversation clear of a serious answer and you are now in control of it with a playful frame! Rationale of number 3: immediately go to fantasy land. If she doesn’t immediately want to go with you, then she likely does not have a high openness to experience (or having a bad day). For me, at times, that was a strict selection criterion. Rationale of number four: see if she believes you, how she responds to status and how she responds to you trolling her a bit :P Common theme here is setting the frame to play. I would say anything, as long as I felt I was playing and non-verbally communicating that. Some were quick witted back. Others roasted me so hard that we were exploring how roasted I could be, lol. It’s all fun. That’s what I would do, and did, and had too much fun with (too much fun == the girl is into you but you’re having such a good time joking around that you can’t stop and it all becomes platonic because you couldn’t care less about seducing her — and vice versa — and you don’t care because you and her are laughing the whole time). Also works the other way around. Playfulness is a fundamental element of meeting someone romantically regardless of gender, IMO. I’d also say it’s fundamental to friendships. It doesn’t have to be this ridiculous though :P

mettamage 5y ago

> The hot girl at a party ... I always say drugs dealer, homeless person, language teacher to camels or internet millionaire. Or whatever I feel like really. Or at least, 10 years ago (long-term relationship). Rationale of the first 2: replace the frame with something ridiculous/lower status. Keep disqualifying yourself to the absurd. Example: selling rainbow pills to little blue smurfs as a drugs dealer? What’s in the rainbow pill she asks? Now you steered the conversation clear of a serious answer and you are now in control of it with a playful frame! Rationale of number 3: immediately go to fantasy land. If she doesn’t immediately want to go with you, then she likely does not have a high openness to experience (or having a bad day). For me, at times, that was a strict selection criterion. Rationale of number four: see if she believes you, how she responds to status and how she responds to you trolling her a bit :P Common theme here is setting the frame to play. I would say anything, as long as I felt I was playing and non-verbally communicating that. Some were quick witted back. Others roasted me so hard that we were exploring how roasted I could be, lol. It’s all fun. That’s what I would do, and did, and had too much fun with (too much fun == the girl is into you but you’re having such a good time joking around that you can’t stop and it all becomes platonic because you couldn’t care less about seducing her — and vice versa — and you don’t care because you and her are laughing the whole time). Also works the other way around. Playfulness is a fundamental element of meeting someone romantically regardless of gender, IMO. I’d also say it’s fundamental to friendships. It doesn’t have to be this ridiculous though :P