Ya, I agree with all those. Any active both ways is kind of creepy. But if it just came to be known, that's where I think things get grey. Like, I don't really

Ya, I agree with all those. Any active both ways is kind of creepy. But if it just came to be known, that's where I think things get grey. Like, I don't really know how to reconcile the thought of someone who actively, but outside of work, is taking a stance against certain people, and then goes to work and pretends to have no issue with having a coworker of that same group. Seems hypocrite, and also feels impossible for me to believe they truly have no issue, it sounds more like they have no choice, but if they did, they'd immediately take actions against them at work as well. Similarly, anyone "looking for dirt" about their coworkers actively, that's hostile in its own way. And if people overblow things, for example, maybe someone is into some weird fiction with female sex slaves, ya it's weird, but it can be a fantasy, it doesn't mean that they advocate for women to become men pleaser and have their rights relinquished, in fact, politically they might be a big feminist, and yet that could be a weird kink fantasy they're simultaneously into. A person who'd blow it out of proportion and try to get them fired for it is probably holding a grudge against people of their kind in a way as well, trying to get dirt and paint them for a scumbag where in actuality their actions could be generous, kind and supporting of all women. To me, both these extremes create a toxic work environment, and I don't want either as a coworker or manager. Thankfully, I think most people are neither of these, but we only hear of the bad apples, and we tend to immediately rally for the side where we feel the more likely to be characterized as. I was trying not to do that and see all sides.