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How would you go about becoming a better cultural fit? I'm asking with an open mind here, and knowing two things: just telling yourself "you need to be more so

How would you go about becoming a better cultural fit? I'm asking with an open mind here, and knowing two things: just telling yourself "you need to be more social" has, if anything, the opposite effect. And God, do I remember hating the feeling. And the second: I did it. Wasn't a huge difference, but went from mostly INTJ to mostly ENTJ over about 20 years. Unfortunately, 20 years is too long to be able to put my finger on something and say "this worked". If I were to give a hint, I'd say that context matters. Probably the most dramatic change was from being literally friendless for a few years to hosting parties, simply because I found a social group with common interests (and very common flaws). Also in the context category, I'd say competence helps a lot. You know that "Hermione" stereotype where you can only interact with people by helping them? It actually works. It takes many years, but eventually helping should lead to "working with" and eventually to "leading". Mind the "many years" part though.

bvoq 5y ago
I got rejected from many behavioral interviews. In a similar vein, the main thing that helped me was the realization that I had to work on my personality as a whole and then the interviews automatically got better. Especially making projects that showed that I cared about contemporary issues was a big plus. In general: you want to be very humble and appreciative but also enthusiastic about the role. Try to talk about a project/hobby that intersects with the work they do. Try to start off average but once they get to know you, you want to be more friendly/likable (don’t give it your all from the start, it might make you look desperate). Also sometimes it’s not your behavior & there’s nothing you can do but to find another role. In my experience I always found a better job when I was looking for longer so it’s all good.

bvoq 5y ago

I got rejected from many behavioral interviews. In a similar vein, the main thing that helped me was the realization that I had to work on my personality as a whole and then the interviews automatically got better. Especially making projects that showed that I cared about contemporary issues was a big plus. In general: you want to be very humble and appreciative but also enthusiastic about the role. Try to talk about a project/hobby that intersects with the work they do. Try to start off average but once they get to know you, you want to be more friendly/likable (don’t give it your all from the start, it might make you look desperate). Also sometimes it’s not your behavior & there’s nothing you can do but to find another role. In my experience I always found a better job when I was looking for longer so it’s all good.