The whole point about not kink -shaming is that it's OK to have kinks so long as it's between you and other consenting individuals. Nowhere is it suggested that

The whole point about not kink -shaming is that it's OK to have kinks so long as it's between you and other consenting individuals. Nowhere is it suggested that it is OK to use this in order to perpetrate abuse onto other people. Everyone is expected to act with restraint, set clear boundaries and stop if their partner(s) ask them to.