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> I suspect that for the average person it's probably reasonable to include a wedding and tuition in the 10k list You're off by a factor of 2-3 here (a little

> I suspect that for the average person it's probably reasonable to include a wedding and tuition in the 10k list You're off by a factor of 2-3 here (a little skewed due to COVID), as the average wedding runs 20-30k... [1] https://www.theknot.com/content/average-wedding-cost https://www.theknot.com/content/average-wedding-cost

munk-a 5y ago
Holy crap people - spend less money on your weddings. Instead spend that money on a honeymoon or setting up your future lives. When I proposed I did it with a 30$ engagement ring that was quite pretty but cheap. When we got married we had a pair of rings made set with sapphires for 700$ a piece. For the actual wedding we catered in a few hundred dollars worth of indian food for the dozen people we had attend the ceremony - and held it at the house of a family member (a ridiculously scenic house, granted). Honestly - the most expensive part of our wedding was my suit that was hand-tailored and made of raw silk (and that was picked out by my wife). My wife's wedding dress was bought off a rack and altered for about 120$ altogether.
- dumbfoundded 5y ago
  Certainly don't get into debt for a wedding and I wouldn't recommend trading a downpayment for a wedding. Otherwise, do whatever you want. $10K is like a used 2013 Honda Civic (1). It's really not a large amount of money for many many people. If someone wants to spend it on a day that enables them to celebrate with family and friends in a rare occasion, who are you to judge? (1) https://www.kbb.com/cars-for-sale/used/2013/honda/civic/richmond-va-23218?distance=100 https://www.kbb.com/cars-for-sale/used/2013/honda/civic/rich...
  - munk-a 5y ago
    Oh - I don't think there's anything wrong with viewing a wedding as a luxurious event in your life and spending a lot on it it's just... Do you actually value what you're getting out of blowing 40k on a particular day more than having[1] 50 days of all-inclusive honeymoon vacation in Cancun? Or like, putting a down payment on a relatively fancy[2] house. I wouldn't judge anyone who made this choice - but if I was their friend I would ask a lot of questions about whether they'd actually enjoy it or just feel like it's a thing you "absolutely must do" due to weird cultural hangups. My wedding was quite pleasant, but it was mostly a blur because it wasn't for us. I think generally isn't a party for the groom and bride to actually maximally enjoy - it's a celebration with the guests. 1. At canadian rates, 'cause I'm Canadian. Somewhat estimated since nothing lets you book that long. 2. Highly dependent on the housing market you're in - if you're in wisconsin enjoy the mansion - if you're in SF enjoy what's probably a slightly larger than average studio.

munk-a 5y ago

Holy crap people - spend less money on your weddings. Instead spend that money on a honeymoon or setting up your future lives. When I proposed I did it with a 30$ engagement ring that was quite pretty but cheap. When we got married we had a pair of rings made set with sapphires for 700$ a piece. For the actual wedding we catered in a few hundred dollars worth of indian food for the dozen people we had attend the ceremony - and held it at the house of a family member (a ridiculously scenic house, granted). Honestly - the most expensive part of our wedding was my suit that was hand-tailored and made of raw silk (and that was picked out by my wife). My wife's wedding dress was bought off a rack and altered for about 120$ altogether.

dumbfoundded 5y ago
Certainly don't get into debt for a wedding and I wouldn't recommend trading a downpayment for a wedding. Otherwise, do whatever you want. $10K is like a used 2013 Honda Civic (1). It's really not a large amount of money for many many people. If someone wants to spend it on a day that enables them to celebrate with family and friends in a rare occasion, who are you to judge? (1) https://www.kbb.com/cars-for-sale/used/2013/honda/civic/richmond-va-23218?distance=100 https://www.kbb.com/cars-for-sale/used/2013/honda/civic/rich...
- munk-a 5y ago
  Oh - I don't think there's anything wrong with viewing a wedding as a luxurious event in your life and spending a lot on it it's just... Do you actually value what you're getting out of blowing 40k on a particular day more than having[1] 50 days of all-inclusive honeymoon vacation in Cancun? Or like, putting a down payment on a relatively fancy[2] house. I wouldn't judge anyone who made this choice - but if I was their friend I would ask a lot of questions about whether they'd actually enjoy it or just feel like it's a thing you "absolutely must do" due to weird cultural hangups. My wedding was quite pleasant, but it was mostly a blur because it wasn't for us. I think generally isn't a party for the groom and bride to actually maximally enjoy - it's a celebration with the guests. 1. At canadian rates, 'cause I'm Canadian. Somewhat estimated since nothing lets you book that long. 2. Highly dependent on the housing market you're in - if you're in wisconsin enjoy the mansion - if you're in SF enjoy what's probably a slightly larger than average studio.