And when you feel like that, it cements you as an outsider. You can also choose to use "he" or "she", and then have the "jerk" become the outsider. I sometimes

And when you feel like that, it cements you as an outsider. You can also choose to use "he" or "she", and then have the "jerk" become the outsider. I sometimes do the former, but now try to do the latter. It leads to a happier life, and if anything, it's closer to reflecting reality.