The problem is not which of the two is the default, the problem is that only one of them looks like a button. It's good to use different styles. Symmetry is ba

The problem is not which of the two is the default, the problem is that only one of them looks like a button. It's good to use different styles. Symmetry is bad when you want people to make a choice. But in this example it doesn't look like there is a choice at all. It's just a dark pattern that almost all companies (including Apple and Microsoft) have started to use, where they de-emphasize certain options to the point where people don't even realise that they have a choice.