It takes time and commitment to build up the trust. And the list of people whose judgement I trust is short indeed. One of the better strategies is to locate

It takes time and commitment to build up the trust. And the list of people whose judgement I trust is short indeed. One of the better strategies is to locate a wise person and make a regular commitment to meet with them and give them permission to really dig into your motives. The spouse is an obvious choice, but someone to whom you're not attached is also useful for this sort of thing.