All of these problems sound like they come from developers who don't know how to develop distributed systems. If anything this should be simplifying an otherwis

All of these problems sound like they come from developers who don't know how to develop distributed systems. If anything this should be simplifying an otherwise intractible problem. I have seen people overuse messaging and had to fix what I could. I otherwise reach for RMQ as a simple solution to horizontal scaling and I write the software to easily switch brokers (Aws SQS, on prem RMQ, cloud RMQ). It's not something that you choose to adopt and then force developers to make every interaction a distributed message.