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Is there any actual correlation between low social skills and introversion or is this just something people like to whack introverted people over the head with?
by kodah 5y ago
Is there any actual correlation between low social skills and introversion or is this just something people like to whack introverted people over the head with?
In my own experience I've witnessed people, in general, who struggle to communicate or communicate effectively. I've also witnessed people who over communicate or dominate communication and are equally destructive. There's also something else I've noticed, which is that leaders are often perceived as effective when they're leading people whom their leadership style is compatible with.
- plutonorm 5y agoPerhaps, but only because the introverts have been beaten over the head repeatedly by the extrovert dominated culture. A socially intelligent introvert looks like a councillor, adept at understanding people in one on one situations, able to bring out the best in people.
- groby_b 5y ago> There's also something else I've noticed, which is that leaders are often perceived as effective when they're leading people whom their leadership style is compatible with. Puts the finger right on the important spot. People "get" you more if you relate to them in a familiar way. Which means that being an effective leader requires stuffing your "but I'm an X" ideas, and adapting to the people you're leading. (Step 2 is teaching them to adapt as well - it's not about permanently disguising yourself)
- Viliam1234 5y agoI would expect that one develops skills mostly by practicing, and extraverts typically get more practice with social interaction, simply because that is how they enjoy spending their free time. On the other hand, introverts may compensate e.g. by reading literature on social skills, or spend more time reflecting on what happened; and unless they are isolated, after a few decades they also get lot of experience. While extraverts may get stuck in the "high-school style of human interaction" and have difficulty move forward. Overall, I would guess that an average extravert will be much better than average introvert e.g. at small talk. But if you need a specialist, e.g. a therapist, the chances are more balanced, because for either it requires going beyond just following their instinct. But this is all just a guess. > There's also something else I've noticed, which is that leaders are often perceived as effective when they're leading people whom their leadership style is compatible with. Yep. But imagine that you have ten people in a room, five extraverted and five introverted. The extraverts will create a group in the middle of the room, and introverts will sit alone near the corners. If you randomly pick a leader, you will probably tell them to lead the group in the middle of the room -- and that is a task better suited to an extravert.
- neonological 5y agoYes logically there should be. The more skilled you are at something in general the less energy you expend in it. This includes socializing. Without data it can't be truly known. But such data is likely garbage as it's very hard to quantify good social skills. However if you remain impartial the intuition and logic is inescapable. The less skilled you are at socializing the more energy you spend on deploying that skill. This means a good portion of introverts are introverted because they are bad at socializing. I mean if you think about it what I said is utterly and completely obvious. It's this oversupply of "the benefites of being an introvert" articles that is making people think otherwise. This stuff is BS science. The introvert extrovert classification is an arbitrary division. Doing science on this division is like doing an experiment on "do people with long hair make better leaders?"