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Vindication is morally questionable, but someone could be tempted to it to attach consequence to the offending behavior. After deciding not to take the low road
by moosebear847 5y ago
Vindication is morally questionable, but someone could be tempted to it to attach consequence to the offending behavior. After deciding not to take the low road, how did you handle these situations in the future?
- geocrasher 5y agoThat's a very good question. Since then, I have never had a coworker treat me in such a fashion, and so I cannot speak directly to it. What I can do is express that the reflection of myself in that scenario was one I didn't like, and I've become quite a different person overall since then. My conflict resolution methods in general are much more constructive. When I have a problem with somebody I am calm but direct and tell them what the problem is. I used to mistake being blunt for being rude, but blunt (as long as it is kind, and not vicious) can be very effective.
- StavrosK 5y agoBy "vindication" do you mean "revenge"? Because vindication is absolutely not questionable. Revenge may be questionable, but I find that not teaching bad people a lesson isn't much better.
- geocrasher 5y agoVindictive, which is the word I used (not vindication) is defined as followws: "having or showing a strong or unreasoning desire for revenge." So yes I was after revenge.
- StavrosK 5y agoI was replying to moosebear847, though I didn't notice you had said "vindictive", so I guess that's what they meant too, thanks!
- chris_wot 5y agoIt could have been worse. I was at college when I heard a previous bunch of students took vengeance on another student by replacing the magnetic disc in his 5 1/4" floppy with a circular disk sander.