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Is marriage and divorce just a preference? Like: I shouldn't have bought the blue car, I'll sell it and save up for the red car? That's what this post feels li

Is marriage and divorce just a preference? Like: I shouldn't have bought the blue car, I'll sell it and save up for the red car? That's what this post feels like. Where is the education and personal growth? Where is the judgemental advice that we don't want to hear (and is probably politically incorrect), but we really should hear anyway? Where is the religion and values? This was the most sterile article about marriage I've ever read.

waschikoschi 5y ago
Funny enough: marriage itself doesn't do that. You get married because you reached a level in your relationship which makes marriage the logical next step. I'm not sure what you mean with 'political incorrect'. What advice would you reference which is probably political incorrect? And religion would be interesting indeed. Like arranged religious marriages. Peer pressure or just an easier but dependent life? Just follow your leaders they will tell you what is right? The article does make a short note on that thought. For whatever ret in our society it was more important to have stable relationships the potentially the well being of people. It's probably a quite young achievement of our time that marriage is no longer the answer but we as people and our well being is recognized and not just the reason to have successors.
- tablespoon 5y ago
  >> Where is the judgemental advice that we don't want to hear (and is probably politically incorrect), but we really should hear anyway? > I'm not sure what you mean with 'political incorrect'. What advice would you reference which is probably political incorrect? Not the OP, but working backward from "politically incorrect," an example may be advice that assumes or advocates for aspects of traditional general roles. Such advice could be both politically incorrect yet valid and useful for a large majority of couples.

waschikoschi 5y ago

Funny enough: marriage itself doesn't do that. You get married because you reached a level in your relationship which makes marriage the logical next step. I'm not sure what you mean with 'political incorrect'. What advice would you reference which is probably political incorrect? And religion would be interesting indeed. Like arranged religious marriages. Peer pressure or just an easier but dependent life? Just follow your leaders they will tell you what is right? The article does make a short note on that thought. For whatever ret in our society it was more important to have stable relationships the potentially the well being of people. It's probably a quite young achievement of our time that marriage is no longer the answer but we as people and our well being is recognized and not just the reason to have successors.

tablespoon 5y ago
>> Where is the judgemental advice that we don't want to hear (and is probably politically incorrect), but we really should hear anyway? > I'm not sure what you mean with 'political incorrect'. What advice would you reference which is probably political incorrect? Not the OP, but working backward from "politically incorrect," an example may be advice that assumes or advocates for aspects of traditional general roles. Such advice could be both politically incorrect yet valid and useful for a large majority of couples.