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Articles like this, that mostly ask questions about (or otherwise explore) what about divorce is ineffective or inefficient or unjust always cause me to feel a
by inspector-g 5y ago
Articles like this, that mostly ask questions about (or otherwise explore) what about divorce is ineffective or inefficient or unjust always cause me to feel a bit disappointed that they don’t acknowledge another glaringly obvious question: why get married in the first place?
This is not the same question as “why become involved in a committed relationship in the first place”; the two concepts are not mutually exclusive.
The older I get, the more I see (with the advantage of hindsight) those close to me jump into marriage essentially unprepared for all its ramifications. In many cases they would have faired much better by simply committing to their partner without getting married, as it is wholly possible to live a full, complete, (be)loved life with another person without a legal certificate.
- satyrnein 5y agoFor most people, marriage doesn't have many ramifications (unless one party has significant assets or something). Having children is the part with ramifications.
- dragonwriter 5y ago> as it is wholly possible to live a full, complete, (be)loved life with another person without a legal certificate. It is possible, but it comes with a lot of complications, as has been thoroughly documented (for instance) by the gay rights movement in the years prior to legal same sex marriage (and before mostly-marriage-equivalent civil unions.)
- Handtuch 5y agoMarriage can be very easy and cheap. It can also be very big and expensive. I liked my wedding, i invited my whole family and made sure they had a great time. A friend divorced a few years back it was not a big deal to talk about it and the why. Of course it can be messy but it probably depends on the people who married. For me it was emotional and a mental step. Does a couple miss out on a potential relevant emotional experience?