Something unpleasant happens: I do the analysis from the starting point that I am 100% wrong. Of course as I go along, most often, I realize that - while parti

Something unpleasant happens: I do the analysis from the starting point that I am 100% wrong. Of course as I go along, most often, I realize that - while partially responsible - I am not 100% wrong, but there is some wrongdoing on my part, if not just in the way I reacted/responded, and/or the depth/breadth of my reaction/responses. For instance, when Anxiety flares up due to some trigger, I might ruminate and have insomnia. Ever ask why? Well... it's about giving way too many fucks. Shit happened. So? Who's responsible for ruminating and losing sleep? Me, myself and I. 100% my bad. Of course I am not responsible for the event, but I am responsible for letting it make me ruminating / insomniac. And seeking an external solution like meds, or therapy, or a therapist or whatnot it's just a copout. And if taken to an extreme it might develop into victim mentality and hence a self fulfilling prophecy. This works for me. I am not blaming any victims out there, at times I have mentioned this personal attitude of mine only to be accused of "blaming victims the world over". NOPE. This is about me. I am no martyr either, but I see out there, and I was guilty myself, to use as a starting point the stance that I was either right or immune to any finger-pointing. Starting from "I am 100% wrong" is just a different stance, a different starting point. Needs not to be the end of it, the process of reasoning is the journey the leads to bettering oneself.