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I respectfully disagree. As a reluctant member of the "older individuals" I too find myself giving a boatload less fucks than I used to, but the main reasons

I respectfully disagree. As a reluctant member of the "older individuals" I too find myself giving a boatload less fucks than I used to, but the main reasons are (in no particular order): 1. I have got my crippling Generalized Anxiety Disorder under control 2. I have realized that I used to give way too many fucks about shit that didn't matter at all, and it was not worth it and actually detrimental Mind you, those 2 are highly correlated and of interdependent causation. What got me here: Therapy didn't help. Manson's book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" helped quite a bit, but was not "the thing". Articles on "Don't be a victim...." "Don't play the victim...." and similar helped. What helped immensely is to start blogging daily, and more often than daily, about the events in my life, my thinking, my reactions starting from the points of view that: A) I am accountable for what happens to me B) I am 100% wrong when something unpleasant happens to me And that, in the course of a few month, changed my life in tangible manners. While I am not a snowflake, I am a special case: I started low, very low; and - IMHO - I have come a long way in the Depression/Anxiety/Being_a_loser scale. I do believe that to some degree something similar happens to most everyone who doesn't start for the same ultra-low point as me, with time we learn that when young we were wrong to give too many fucks about too many things. But guess what? Giving way too many fucks about too many things is good for: Business: Facebook, iPhone & Co Politicians: from left to right Religions: all of them (except for The Dude) And that's why the messagings that we are bombarded with aim at reinforcing giving too many fucks about too many things (aka Anxiety) and the messagings aimed at kids/teenagers aim to create and instill Anxiety. Mic drop.

b0rsuk 5y ago
Do you have any tips for getting Generalized Anxiety Disorder under control? At least point in the right direction?
- mpfundstein 5y ago
  acceptance
- SMAAART 5y ago
  Mainly this: > What helped immensely is to start blogging daily, and more often than daily, about the events in my life, my thinking, my reactions starting from the points of view that: > A) I am accountable for what happens to me > B) I am 100% wrong when something unpleasant happens to me > And that, in the course of a few month, changed my life in tangible manners. And also: I am reading about Rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT) specifically: How To Stubbornly Refuse To Make Yourself Miserable About Anything-yes, Anything! How to Keep People from Pushing Your Buttons A guide to rational Living
ggambetta 5y ago
Very interesting! Can you elaborate on "B) I am 100% wrong when something unpleasant happens to me"? Not sure what you mean by this exactly.
- SMAAART 5y ago
  Something unpleasant happens: I do the analysis from the starting point that I am 100% wrong. Of course as I go along, most often, I realize that - while partially responsible - I am not 100% wrong, but there is some wrongdoing on my part, if not just in the way I reacted/responded, and/or the depth/breadth of my reaction/responses. For instance, when Anxiety flares up due to some trigger, I might ruminate and have insomnia. Ever ask why? Well... it's about giving way too many fucks. Shit happened. So? Who's responsible for ruminating and losing sleep? Me, myself and I. 100% my bad. Of course I am not responsible for the event, but I am responsible for letting it make me ruminating / insomniac. And seeking an external solution like meds, or therapy, or a therapist or whatnot it's just a copout. And if taken to an extreme it might develop into victim mentality and hence a self fulfilling prophecy. This works for me. I am not blaming any victims out there, at times I have mentioned this personal attitude of mine only to be accused of "blaming victims the world over". NOPE. This is about me. I am no martyr either, but I see out there, and I was guilty myself, to use as a starting point the stance that I was either right or immune to any finger-pointing. Starting from "I am 100% wrong" is just a different stance, a different starting point. Needs not to be the end of it, the process of reasoning is the journey the leads to bettering oneself.

b0rsuk 5y ago

Do you have any tips for getting Generalized Anxiety Disorder under control? At least point in the right direction?

mpfundstein 5y ago
acceptance
SMAAART 5y ago
Mainly this: > What helped immensely is to start blogging daily, and more often than daily, about the events in my life, my thinking, my reactions starting from the points of view that: > A) I am accountable for what happens to me > B) I am 100% wrong when something unpleasant happens to me > And that, in the course of a few month, changed my life in tangible manners. And also: I am reading about Rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT) specifically: How To Stubbornly Refuse To Make Yourself Miserable About Anything-yes, Anything! How to Keep People from Pushing Your Buttons A guide to rational Living

ggambetta 5y ago

Very interesting! Can you elaborate on "B) I am 100% wrong when something unpleasant happens to me"? Not sure what you mean by this exactly.

SMAAART 5y ago
Something unpleasant happens: I do the analysis from the starting point that I am 100% wrong. Of course as I go along, most often, I realize that - while partially responsible - I am not 100% wrong, but there is some wrongdoing on my part, if not just in the way I reacted/responded, and/or the depth/breadth of my reaction/responses. For instance, when Anxiety flares up due to some trigger, I might ruminate and have insomnia. Ever ask why? Well... it's about giving way too many fucks. Shit happened. So? Who's responsible for ruminating and losing sleep? Me, myself and I. 100% my bad. Of course I am not responsible for the event, but I am responsible for letting it make me ruminating / insomniac. And seeking an external solution like meds, or therapy, or a therapist or whatnot it's just a copout. And if taken to an extreme it might develop into victim mentality and hence a self fulfilling prophecy. This works for me. I am not blaming any victims out there, at times I have mentioned this personal attitude of mine only to be accused of "blaming victims the world over". NOPE. This is about me. I am no martyr either, but I see out there, and I was guilty myself, to use as a starting point the stance that I was either right or immune to any finger-pointing. Starting from "I am 100% wrong" is just a different stance, a different starting point. Needs not to be the end of it, the process of reasoning is the journey the leads to bettering oneself.