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The blog author seems rightfully fed up with years' worth of people obliviously asking them about children when they've chosen to live childfree. It's no surpri
by EForEndeavour 5y ago
The blog author seems rightfully fed up with years' worth of people obliviously asking them about children when they've chosen to live childfree. It's no surprise that this mistargeted email is received so poorly.
That said, I think it's really imprecise to infer whether someone has a child from their age, sex, and marital status. Regardless of how many 30-year-old married women in SE Railways' database show strong signs of having children (e.g., they regularly book child's fares), the consequence of incorrectly believing a woman has a child when they really don't is potentially really bad. How many infertile couples, recovering stillbirth mothers, or childfree advocates who complain eloquently enough to get to the front page of HN do you want to risk upsetting with this tone-deaf campaign email?
- shockeychap 5y agoTo do anything in most situations risks some degree of offense. I wholly sympathize with parents who are dealing with loss in any of its forms. I wish there was a way they could be shielded from the world for a time. But SE Railways’ email was quite sensible. If privacy is the concern, there’s plenty to discuss about FB or Google who actually do target people based on personal and private insights. I think that ranting about this email is misplaced at best.