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> It's at best just extremely rude to tell someone about their own life and how they should feel about it. I have to disagree. My grandparents often have great
by cj 5y ago
> It's at best just extremely rude to tell someone about their own life and how they should feel about it.
I have to disagree. My grandparents often have great perspectives on life situations that they readily share when relevant to the people around them. No one sees it as rude, and if they do, it’s usually because the advice hits a little too close to home. Like “when I went through my divorce…”
- dredmorbius 5y agoSharing insight and/or experience != telling someone how to feel about something. The truly insightful manage to prompt you to think without explicitly telling you to do so. (And are sometimes wrong. People can in fact be living in a truly dismal present, whatever their age.)
- 8fGTBjZxBcHq 5y agoYes, I am not disputing that. I am talking about the difference between giving someone advice about a situation they're in, and telling them how to feel about it. "When I was your age, I didn't appreciate certain things so I'm pointing them out to you" is really different from "this is the best time of your life" which is a statement an external observer is just not equipped to make about someone else's life.
- kodah 5y agoThose two things mean the same thing in casual conversation. I'm plenty picky about rhetoric when it comes to serious debate, but I would align your view more with trying to bully people over some sense of unfairness.