I guess it’s a matter of life experience. I couldn’t point to a research paper on it more than Chris Voss’ work on negotiation. I find “why?” is more aggressiv

I guess it’s a matter of life experience. I couldn’t point to a research paper on it more than Chris Voss’ work on negotiation. I find “why?” is more aggressive and makes people talk more about the generalities of the idea, whereas with “how” and “what” I feel like I can get the why without asking it directly, and closer to the truth.