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If your programming routine is causing someone to go on short term disability because it has caused them significant mental impairment, why was there never a di

If your programming routine is causing someone to go on short term disability because it has caused them significant mental impairment, why was there never a discussion about perhaps too much of a good thing is now damaging our workers? Like, nobody thought to themselves, this is causing actual damage to our workers, and maybe we should scale it back?

dkarl 5y ago
It's very hard to imagine how other people experience it, because people's experiences can be so wildly different. My wife can carry on conversations while solving problems and getting her work done. It helps her think. She can also talk all day, quite literally, conversing without pause from the moment she wakes up until the moment she closes her eyes, without feeling that it takes any extra energy. If anything, talking is a bit easier than not talking, and it frees her brain to work more creatively and systematically. Me, I'm exhausted by conversations that last more than a few minutes, and talking interferes with my ability to think. I have to tell my wife sometimes, "Look, I know you shared this new piece of information with me half an hour ago, but we've been talking about it the whole time since then, so I haven't processed it at all. I don't know how I feel about it. I haven't thought about how it changes things. I'm just trying to force out utterances at the expected conversational rhythm until we stop talking and I can engage with the new information." These two experiences are so far apart that it's very hard to comprehend someone on the other side. In fact, I think it's even harder for someone like my wife to understand someone like me, because I've had it drilled into me from a young age that my way is not the normal one. Lots of people seek professional help because they are too much like me and want to be more "normal" like my wife. Vice-versa, not so much. My wife loves me and has been living with me for almost five years, but she is still working to internalize the fact that these differences are real. She still has to fight with her gut-level assumption that I experience conversation much like she does, and if I don't partake, it reflects hostility or indifference, and if I say I can't, I'm malingering. If she still has to consciously override that reaction, imagine a management layer of extroverts whose only exposure to introverts is through managing them. To them, it just looks like some people are adapting and thriving, and others are obstructing and malingering.

dkarl 5y ago

It's very hard to imagine how other people experience it, because people's experiences can be so wildly different. My wife can carry on conversations while solving problems and getting her work done. It helps her think. She can also talk all day, quite literally, conversing without pause from the moment she wakes up until the moment she closes her eyes, without feeling that it takes any extra energy. If anything, talking is a bit easier than not talking, and it frees her brain to work more creatively and systematically. Me, I'm exhausted by conversations that last more than a few minutes, and talking interferes with my ability to think. I have to tell my wife sometimes, "Look, I know you shared this new piece of information with me half an hour ago, but we've been talking about it the whole time since then, so I haven't processed it at all. I don't know how I feel about it. I haven't thought about how it changes things. I'm just trying to force out utterances at the expected conversational rhythm until we stop talking and I can engage with the new information." These two experiences are so far apart that it's very hard to comprehend someone on the other side. In fact, I think it's even harder for someone like my wife to understand someone like me, because I've had it drilled into me from a young age that my way is not the normal one. Lots of people seek professional help because they are too much like me and want to be more "normal" like my wife. Vice-versa, not so much. My wife loves me and has been living with me for almost five years, but she is still working to internalize the fact that these differences are real. She still has to fight with her gut-level assumption that I experience conversation much like she does, and if I don't partake, it reflects hostility or indifference, and if I say I can't, I'm malingering. If she still has to consciously override that reaction, imagine a management layer of extroverts whose only exposure to introverts is through managing them. To them, it just looks like some people are adapting and thriving, and others are obstructing and malingering.