I feel very confident saying that there are lots of software jobs paying in the ~150k range (particularly for people with at least a couple years of experience,

I feel very confident saying that there are lots of software jobs paying in the ~150k range (particularly for people with at least a couple years of experience, which you clearly have) that rarely if ever require more than 40 hours per week. I've never actually known anyone who works as much as you apparently do, save for high level execs at big companies making 7 figures and up. I've worked at FAANGs, and now work for a medium sized startup, with comp in the ~200-300k range and can count on my hands the number of weeks in my career that I've worked more than 40 hours. Are you willing to name and shame? 60+ hours a week, much less 90, sounds utterly and completely insane to me. I would consider those companies outliers, and have a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that you've apparently found yourself at 2 outliers in a row. Obviously location matters, so for reference: I was in Seattle while at a FAANG, and now work fully remote.