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Doesn't this book offer advice like smiling at everyone all the time and saying their name? I frequently cringe when I see this playing out with people I meet.
by Graffur 5y ago
Doesn't this book offer advice like smiling at everyone all the time and saying their name?
I frequently cringe when I see this playing out with people I meet. It makes me so uncomfortable that they're following a ruleset when communicating with people.
- aristofun 5y agoThese are not rules. These are instincts and bio-social mechanisms. Thanks to them we survived and evolve. One should have respect for them.
- Reebz 5y agoNot in that context. Anything must be done with authenticity. The book is really clear and even addresses that you simply can’t do it all the time. It illustrates the need to take the time to build relationships and, critically, listen. Don’t fake it. Avoid any “SparkNotes” version of this book. It deserves a full read/listen. Although it’s decades old it is pragmatic and touches on topics like social proof and network effects before they were mainstream.
- Graffur 5y agoI have evaluated the book and don't think it deserves a full read or listen.
- Reebz 5y agoCan you share your evaluation that drove your decision to not fully read the book? I’m genuinely interested. Maybe it is my own personal flaw, but I’ve often pushed through enjoyable books to reach the end, which probably isn’t the best use of my time.
- beckingz 5y agoI am also interested in your evaluation. Why does it not deserve a full read?