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Thinking you have friends at work is a mistake of youth. It is what it is. Most people will barely have any real friends in life. It’s a job that sustains peop

Thinking you have friends at work is a mistake of youth. It is what it is. Most people will barely have any real friends in life. It’s a job that sustains people’s livelihoods - spouse, children, house, parents, dreams, future ... It’s super unhealthy to be best friends forever with anyone at work when it comes to this, mainly because everyone is playing for high stakes. If you are a true friend, never draw people into your own bullshit. You think a place is a toxic environment, fine, but there’s 10 other people that can fucking manage it and have other goals with what the job provides. Eg ‘Since we are friends, and I don’t like so and so, I expect you to not like so and so’ Get over yourselves, this shit pays the bills. I’ll see you at badminton practice or something, but ain’t nobody friends on that level at work other than pure dumbasses.

goatinaboat 5y ago
Thinking you have friends at work is a mistake of youth. It is what it is. It's OK to enjoy the company of your co-workers, to socialise with them, you can have some fun and memorable experiences with them. But you have to understand that there is a hierarchy, the job is what pays the money that supports a person's family, and if siding with a co-worker in a dispute with a manager would jeopardise that, then the outcome is entirely predictable.
whywhywhywhy 5y ago
>Thinking you have friends at work is a mistake of youth. It is what it is. Most people will barely have any real friends in life. This just isn't true and work is one of the only places most adults will even have the opportunity to make new friends at all. I'm not saying like treat everyone you work with as a friend but there is no problem with socializing with your colleagues and eventually becoming friends. All the worthwhile friendships I made in adult life have been through work and there are plenty of people who I worked with 2-4 companies ago that I still meet up with and consider good friends.
mbrodersen 5y ago
I found most of my best friends at places I worked or studied. Just choose carefully.

goatinaboat 5y ago

Thinking you have friends at work is a mistake of youth. It is what it is. It's OK to enjoy the company of your co-workers, to socialise with them, you can have some fun and memorable experiences with them. But you have to understand that there is a hierarchy, the job is what pays the money that supports a person's family, and if siding with a co-worker in a dispute with a manager would jeopardise that, then the outcome is entirely predictable.

whywhywhywhy 5y ago

>Thinking you have friends at work is a mistake of youth. It is what it is. Most people will barely have any real friends in life. This just isn't true and work is one of the only places most adults will even have the opportunity to make new friends at all. I'm not saying like treat everyone you work with as a friend but there is no problem with socializing with your colleagues and eventually becoming friends. All the worthwhile friendships I made in adult life have been through work and there are plenty of people who I worked with 2-4 companies ago that I still meet up with and consider good friends.

mbrodersen 5y ago

I found most of my best friends at places I worked or studied. Just choose carefully.