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As another brown guy with kids my anecdote is that I was discriminated by my high school counselor[1] but I took that as a life lesson. The lesson wasn't that w
by bosswipe 5y ago
As another brown guy with kids my anecdote is that I was discriminated by my high school counselor[1] but I took that as a life lesson. The lesson wasn't that white people are evil, but that bias is real and I have to be aware of what's going on and stand up for myself. The lesson has served me well and I've been very successful. Bias of all types is real, it makes no sense to me to hid that fact from my kids. I just teach them that it's one of many obstacles in life and the only way to achieve your goals is to work harder than the people in your way.
[1] A couple example incidents: 1) I wasn't even made aware of AP classes because I didn't look like the kids in those classes. I had to do self study to take the test after I learned about it, which I ended up aceing. 2) I lost out a big scholarship that I would have easily gotten if my counselor had worked with me the way she worked with the white kids.
- nitrogen 5y agoNot to discount your experience, but I think high school counselors and university advisors just aren't very good in general, or are at least very hit or miss. They will tell all kinds of students not to bother trying for an elite school, or try to steer them away from college altogether. I also missed out on a lot of opportunities that I only recognized in hindsight, because nobody thought to tell me and I didn't know where to look.