Indeed, I meant popular in general. It's interesting you bring that up though because that's precisely what started me on this. A feminist friend and I disagree

Indeed, I meant popular in general. It's interesting you bring that up though because that's precisely what started me on this. A feminist friend and I disagreed on that and so we looked into it both came out with more nuanced views. The science does not support gender essentialism nor does it support the tabula rasa kind of thing her and your wife were advocating. The answer is that it's nature and nurture and we just don't know how much of which yet. Somewhere there's an entire Wikipedia page on people debating whether this is legitimate research or somehow sexism. I thought all of their arguments were pretty poor though. It's kind of a scary situation though that some people are so hostile to even looking into it at all. I think it's going to be really hard to figure out how much is biological vs. cultural but I suspect society may get to some of those experiments before science at this rate.