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> One time someone asked me for a favor. I thought it was unreasonable so I declined. I didn't realize this sort of thing was "abusive and predatory." I feel so

• kevinskii 6y ago
  You're right, I should have left off the last sentence. But words mean things. Let's save the description "abusive and predatory" for things that are, well, abusive and predatory. A voluntary invitation to collaborate does not meet that standard, regardless of its reasonableness.
  • xpe 6y ago
    Perhaps, at the individual level, you can claim that 'voluntary' can never mean abusive. But this would be too simplistic. Many 'voluntary' relationships are abusive. Think about the system implications and dynamics over time here. There are power imbalances and changing expectations. People rarely have the unfettered freedom implicit in your claim. And, if you think beyond the individual level -- at the society level, one's analysis must go much deeper.