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I wouldn’t say that it’s incentivized at all. Weddings are expensive, divorces are financially disastrous (yet easy to initiate), and a sizable segment of the p

I wouldn’t say that it’s incentivized at all. Weddings are expensive, divorces are financially disastrous (yet easy to initiate), and a sizable segment of the population thinks the idea of marriage is “uncool”, for lack of a better word. Things like adultery are nearly outright encouraged in Netflix shows and novels. It doesn’t surprise me at all that many people look at marriage as it currently stands and just say, no thanks. This goes against pretty much every society, historically. https://www.ranker.com/list/best-tv-shows-about-cheating/ranker-tv https://www.ranker.com/list/best-tv-shows-about-cheating/ran...

toyg 5y ago
I fear that words like "easy" or "expensive" in this realm are difficult to evaluate objectively. Weddings, for example, are not expensive, if you consider them as a bureaucratic act: in most countries, it's just a few forms to fill him with minimal fees attached. However, if you impose on them oversized cultural expectations (which come from "netflix shows of the past"...) of white horses, diamonds, banquets and so on, then yeah, it's an expensive act. Maybe, if one wanted more weddings, one should support reducing some of these artificial obstacles...? > a sizable segment of the population thinks the idea of marriage is “uncool” That's always been true, as showed in literature of the past.
sokoloff 5y ago
We spent around $700 on our wedding. Front yard ceremony, $150-200 for the justice of the peace, trays of food from the local BBQ place, more wine, beer, and drinks than our 25 or so closest friends could consume. Getting married isn't inherently expensive. People make it so because an entire industry is optimized around convincing you to spend more on a dress than we spent on an entire wedding.
- paulryanrogers 5y ago
  Culture also instills in girls and young women that it must be their perfect day. Family obligations and expectations can add more pressure.
- AtlasBarfed 5y ago
  You didn't have a friend do the internet church thing to become an officiant? Is that no longer possible?
  - sokoloff 5y ago
    It is a thing still here. The friend who we’d have asked to do that (and has done it before) was unable to attend our ceremony, so we just went down the city’s list and picked someone.
- ceilingcorner 5y ago
  Weddings are expensive because historically they were seen as extremely important. This is observable in almost every culture and predates modern consumer culture.

toyg 5y ago

I fear that words like "easy" or "expensive" in this realm are difficult to evaluate objectively. Weddings, for example, are not expensive, if you consider them as a bureaucratic act: in most countries, it's just a few forms to fill him with minimal fees attached. However, if you impose on them oversized cultural expectations (which come from "netflix shows of the past"...) of white horses, diamonds, banquets and so on, then yeah, it's an expensive act. Maybe, if one wanted more weddings, one should support reducing some of these artificial obstacles...? > a sizable segment of the population thinks the idea of marriage is “uncool” That's always been true, as showed in literature of the past.

sokoloff 5y ago

We spent around $700 on our wedding. Front yard ceremony, $150-200 for the justice of the peace, trays of food from the local BBQ place, more wine, beer, and drinks than our 25 or so closest friends could consume. Getting married isn't inherently expensive. People make it so because an entire industry is optimized around convincing you to spend more on a dress than we spent on an entire wedding.

paulryanrogers 5y ago
Culture also instills in girls and young women that it must be their perfect day. Family obligations and expectations can add more pressure.
AtlasBarfed 5y ago
You didn't have a friend do the internet church thing to become an officiant? Is that no longer possible?
- sokoloff 5y ago
  It is a thing still here. The friend who we’d have asked to do that (and has done it before) was unable to attend our ceremony, so we just went down the city’s list and picked someone.
ceilingcorner 5y ago
Weddings are expensive because historically they were seen as extremely important. This is observable in almost every culture and predates modern consumer culture.