>> there was a fairly polarized split between the she-doesn’t-owe-you-sex-you-child crowd and the good-for-him-dump-the-frigid-broad edgelords. I envied their r

>> there was a fairly polarized split between the she-doesn’t-owe-you-sex-you-child crowd and the good-for-him-dump-the-frigid-broad edgelords. I envied their respective positions and their certainty of being right, because I know too many people... There is a version of this essay that's about establishing who's right and wrong, personally and/or publicly. In some cases, those essays need to be written. Those don't require much empathy, and if they do it's a judicial sort of empathy. This essay we need more of, at least if we want to know more. Everyone is responsible for their own arseholery. I do think we need to be somewhat firm about what that is or isn't. But drawing lines isn't the whole game. Empathy is an actual requirement for understanding, because what empathy is, is human's innate ability to understand one another when we try.