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>Which is basically the exact definition of codependence. Well okay I suppose that the people I'm talking about, in their 50+ year relationships would describe
by thepasswordis 5y ago
>Which is basically the exact definition of codependence.
Well okay I suppose that the people I'm talking about, in their 50+ year relationships would describe their love for their partner as a type of addiction, but what you might be missing there is: that is a joke, and they are being cute.
If we're redefining romantic devotion as an "addiction" then I think we have officially lost the plot.
- jamespo 5y agoHmm it seems like you're reframing things to shore up your argument
- void_mint 5y agoYou're kind of just arguing past the people in this thread ("these relationships in my life are healthy and not codependent, so codependence is not a problem in relationships"). I would also argue that your takes offer the same "armchair psychoanalysis" you're arguing against, fwiw. > If we're redefining romantic devotion as an "addiction" then I think we have officially lost the plot. No one is redefining anything. This term is poorly defined. Codependence is not "romantic devotion". "Romantic devotion" should not be codependence.
- thepasswordis 5y agoWhen you use the word "codependent", what do you mean?
- wizzwizz4 5y agohttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#Individual_dynamics https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#Individual_dynami... > A codependent is someone who cannot function on their own and whose thinking and behavior is instead organized around another person, process, or substance.
- lovegoblin 5y agohttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#Romantic_relationship_dynamics https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#Romantic_relation... > Commonly observable characteristics of codependency are: > intense and unstable interpersonal relationships > *inability to tolerate being alone, accompanied by frantic efforts to avoid being alone* > ...