I remember growing up in the 90s, and in the AOL Instant Messenger profiles of my friends, was commonly the quote: "You have to love yourself before you can lov

I remember growing up in the 90s, and in the AOL Instant Messenger profiles of my friends, was commonly the quote: "You have to love yourself before you can love another." Also a lot of DMB song lyrics... it was a different time. I remember there being a few hopeless kids in high school, but looking back there was also a lot of undiagnosed asperger's and who knows what else. What I'm really curious about is if the number of Incels is increasing through the years, or if now the underserved mentally ill just have platforms to espouse their misery. The Incel seems to be singularly focused on sex. Companionship, shared interests, mutual respect don't seem to get any daylight in their psyche. I would like to blame the consumption of instant, abundant hard core pornography. But I don't have any data to back that claim up. I'm just thinking of a difference from the 90s (I know porn existed online back then, but come on, everyone was on dial up) versus today.