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It's like typical "I don't need anything for my birthday". Even the most rational people tend to get disappointed if they really get nothing.

willcipriano 5y ago
I don't get disappointed. The best gift you can get me for my birthday is remove the obligation for me to get you one on yours. Saves so much mental energy and time.
- jokethrowaway 5y ago
  Same, even though I've been bit by it. After rationally agreeing not to get anything (because we were about to move overseas on a couple of luggages and didn't want extra stuff) my SO got me 3 (3!! usually it was one per event) gifts and I was empty handed. And I had to resell / returns some of the items as we were moving anyway and we could just buy better quality stuff later on, without having to pay for the move.
- 64StarFox64 5y ago
  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Gift_(essay) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Gift_(essay)
  - setr 5y ago
    I always liked the associated page for Gift Economy -- reading it is when I first realized there are multiple credit systems in play at any given moment, beyond raw currency.
toast0 5y ago
I try to tell people I don't have a birthday anymore. Because if I tell people not to get me anything, sometimes they hear please get me something. Ugh.
- Judgmentality 5y ago
  > I try to tell people I don't have a birthday anymore. Never thought of that. I'd imagine the ensuing conversation is even more problematic though? "What do you mean you don't have a birthday? That makes no sense!"
  - NikolaeVarius 5y ago
    No, just respond with "I stopped caring". Maybe could also tack on that you count winters to tell your age.
  - toast0 5y ago
    I mean it usually goes "No really? When's your birthday" "I don't have one, thanks" and usually dies off from there. I mean, if I have to put it on a form, that's one thing, but like office people don't need to know when it is.
- zingplex 5y ago
  I normally just tell them "it was a few weeks back". This gives a full year for them to forget about it and has a sufficiently vague period of time that they can't nail you next year should they remember.
NikolaeVarius 5y ago
Nope. I dont want or need more shit.
astura 5y ago
Um, no, I've never gotten disappointed. I've been married for a decade and the hubby and I don't do material gifts, ever. I'd be much more disappointed in some useless trinket I don't need and would feel obligated to keep.

willcipriano 5y ago

I don't get disappointed. The best gift you can get me for my birthday is remove the obligation for me to get you one on yours. Saves so much mental energy and time.

jokethrowaway 5y ago
Same, even though I've been bit by it. After rationally agreeing not to get anything (because we were about to move overseas on a couple of luggages and didn't want extra stuff) my SO got me 3 (3!! usually it was one per event) gifts and I was empty handed. And I had to resell / returns some of the items as we were moving anyway and we could just buy better quality stuff later on, without having to pay for the move.
64StarFox64 5y ago
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Gift_(essay) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Gift_(essay)
- setr 5y ago
  I always liked the associated page for Gift Economy -- reading it is when I first realized there are multiple credit systems in play at any given moment, beyond raw currency.

toast0 5y ago

I try to tell people I don't have a birthday anymore. Because if I tell people not to get me anything, sometimes they hear please get me something. Ugh.

Judgmentality 5y ago
> I try to tell people I don't have a birthday anymore. Never thought of that. I'd imagine the ensuing conversation is even more problematic though? "What do you mean you don't have a birthday? That makes no sense!"
- NikolaeVarius 5y ago
  No, just respond with "I stopped caring". Maybe could also tack on that you count winters to tell your age.
- toast0 5y ago
  I mean it usually goes "No really? When's your birthday" "I don't have one, thanks" and usually dies off from there. I mean, if I have to put it on a form, that's one thing, but like office people don't need to know when it is.
zingplex 5y ago
I normally just tell them "it was a few weeks back". This gives a full year for them to forget about it and has a sufficiently vague period of time that they can't nail you next year should they remember.

NikolaeVarius 5y ago

Nope. I dont want or need more shit.

astura 5y ago

Um, no, I've never gotten disappointed. I've been married for a decade and the hubby and I don't do material gifts, ever. I'd be much more disappointed in some useless trinket I don't need and would feel obligated to keep.