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It depends on culture. In my country, a gold or silver ring is acceptable.

StavrosK 5y ago
In my country, a simple gold band is also customary. When you think "wedding ring", you think "simple gold band". They all look the same.
- lewisflude 5y ago
  In the UK at least, there is an "engagement ring" that has a diamond typically, and then a "wedding band" that is typically a gold (or silver) band that goes next to the engagement ring on the ring finger, with a similar ring for the other partner on the ring finger.
chrisseaton 5y ago
> a gold or silver ring is acceptable As in not having a ring is 'unacceptable' somehow then?
- croo 5y ago
  Not op, but yes. Engagement traditionally is giving a ring to your desired future wife. I don't understand your point. Of course you can ignore tradition but then why marry in the first place?
  - chrisseaton 5y ago
    I mean who is it unacceptable to? Who complains if you don't have a ring and what do they do about it? If someone told me they thought it was unacceptable that I didn't have a ring I'd laugh at them.
    - mavhc 5y ago
      Unacceptable to sexists
    - simias 5y ago
      The conversation is framed from the point of view of tradition in some parts of the world. Of course the cops won't arrest you if you decide not to get an engagement ring. It's like going to work in flip flops, it's not illegal, just frowned upon in many circles. These faux-intellectual "I'm a robot, beep boop I don't understand context and I parse conversations like a compiler would, semantic error on line 5" conversations are probably the least productive on this website, and they're unfortunately very common. It's not smart, it's just obtuse.
  - eru 5y ago
    > Of course you can ignore tradition but then why marry in the first place? Taxation, adoption, power of attorney, inheritance taxes, etc.
    - username90 5y ago
      Those doesn't apply in all jurisdictions. There is no reason why laws should give special privileges to marriages over other forms of relationships.
      - eru 5y ago
        Yes, different jurisdictions treat marriage differently. > There is no reason why laws should give special privileges to marriages over other forms of relationships. I tend to agree, but that's a normative question and doesn't change the legal facts we have to deal with. (At least not directly. Laws are made by people, and if enough people or the right people care for laws to be different, laws can be changed.)
  - gspr 5y ago
    > Of course you can ignore tradition but then why marry in the first place? I find it strange how many people seem to be able to separate a tradition from physical items traditionally involved in that tradition.
    - chrisseaton 5y ago
      > I find it strange how many people seem to be able to separate a tradition from physical items traditionally involved in that tradition. They're just symbols - I don't think it's strange that many people are able to separate them.
- tomhoward 5y ago
  That's not really what they meant by "acceptable" - just that either of those metals are traditional. What's "acceptable" depends on the people in the relationship, and what will make each of them happy. I didn't have a ring when I proposed to my partner as it was a fairly spontaneous decision when we were in a foreign country, and I knew the location of the proposal would matter much more to her than a ring. But then after we got back we worked together with a jeweller to design a ring, which made sense as she has better design judgment than me, and we weren't doing anything very lavish/expensive, just something tasteful that she would love (for the record it didn't have diamonds, but rather a morganite stone with white gold).

In my country, a simple gold band is also customary. When you think "wedding ring", you think "simple gold band". They all look the same.

lewisflude 5y ago
In the UK at least, there is an "engagement ring" that has a diamond typically, and then a "wedding band" that is typically a gold (or silver) band that goes next to the engagement ring on the ring finger, with a similar ring for the other partner on the ring finger.

chrisseaton 5y ago

> a gold or silver ring is acceptable As in not having a ring is 'unacceptable' somehow then?

croo 5y ago
Not op, but yes. Engagement traditionally is giving a ring to your desired future wife. I don't understand your point. Of course you can ignore tradition but then why marry in the first place?
- chrisseaton 5y ago
  I mean who is it unacceptable to? Who complains if you don't have a ring and what do they do about it? If someone told me they thought it was unacceptable that I didn't have a ring I'd laugh at them.
  - mavhc 5y ago
    Unacceptable to sexists
  - simias 5y ago
    The conversation is framed from the point of view of tradition in some parts of the world. Of course the cops won't arrest you if you decide not to get an engagement ring. It's like going to work in flip flops, it's not illegal, just frowned upon in many circles. These faux-intellectual "I'm a robot, beep boop I don't understand context and I parse conversations like a compiler would, semantic error on line 5" conversations are probably the least productive on this website, and they're unfortunately very common. It's not smart, it's just obtuse.
- eru 5y ago
  > Of course you can ignore tradition but then why marry in the first place? Taxation, adoption, power of attorney, inheritance taxes, etc.
  - username90 5y ago
    Those doesn't apply in all jurisdictions. There is no reason why laws should give special privileges to marriages over other forms of relationships.
    - eru 5y ago
      Yes, different jurisdictions treat marriage differently. > There is no reason why laws should give special privileges to marriages over other forms of relationships. I tend to agree, but that's a normative question and doesn't change the legal facts we have to deal with. (At least not directly. Laws are made by people, and if enough people or the right people care for laws to be different, laws can be changed.)
- gspr 5y ago
  > Of course you can ignore tradition but then why marry in the first place? I find it strange how many people seem to be able to separate a tradition from physical items traditionally involved in that tradition.
  - chrisseaton 5y ago
    > I find it strange how many people seem to be able to separate a tradition from physical items traditionally involved in that tradition. They're just symbols - I don't think it's strange that many people are able to separate them.
tomhoward 5y ago
That's not really what they meant by "acceptable" - just that either of those metals are traditional. What's "acceptable" depends on the people in the relationship, and what will make each of them happy. I didn't have a ring when I proposed to my partner as it was a fairly spontaneous decision when we were in a foreign country, and I knew the location of the proposal would matter much more to her than a ring. But then after we got back we worked together with a jeweller to design a ring, which made sense as she has better design judgment than me, and we weren't doing anything very lavish/expensive, just something tasteful that she would love (for the record it didn't have diamonds, but rather a morganite stone with white gold).