After 30 years, you'd like to think marriage allows for some growing apart, though. Loyalty and honor count for something, when you're thinking about who shoul

After 30 years, you'd like to think marriage allows for some growing apart, though. Loyalty and honor count for something, when you're thinking about who should hold your hand in the ICU, or who should be with you and your kids in the next plot (or urn). It's odd to think that either of them looked at the other and thought "this person is an obstacle to what I really want."