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That’s fair, but perhaps there are also some parents that pay far more attention to their children than they really require or is even healthy for them. I foun
by bladegash 5y ago
That’s fair, but perhaps there are also some parents that pay far more attention to their children than they really require or is even healthy for them.
I found this especially true with our first born, where once you have a second, you quickly realize you probably gave them just a tad too much attention than was necessary.
Children have been raised in situations with single parents, ones where one or both parents work full time, etc. Day cares are somehow able to manage with one teacher to 10+ young children. Have we been failing at child rearing since, well, the beginning of time?
I’m also not sure what garbage time with a < 2 year old would really be…they honestly don’t do much nor can they learn to do much at that age. Don’t get me wrong, plenty of meaningful ways to spend time with a child that way, I just don’t really know how you spend 8-12 hours a day giving focused attention to a 1 1/2 year old. But to each their own and not my place to judge anyone else’s parenting style.
- lotsofpulp 5y agoBy garbage time, I mean I can't productively use the time I'm spending being responsible for the kid to do any involved task. I'm not saying I interact with the kid the whole time, but I have to keep an eye on the toddler to make sure they're not hurting themselves, or more likely, the toddler is pestering me to play with them. They play with their own toys and pots and pans for a few minutes, but it's not long before they see you on the laptop or whatever and want to get up in your lap. It's easier if there are other toddlers to play with and how a daycare can watch multiple toddlers with one adult.
- bladegash 5y agoI hear you, 100% - it’s not easy no matter how you cut it. Infants and toddlers are a handful and they love playing with their parents! Mine are a bit older now (8 and 5), but I will be a bit sad when they no longer want my attention as much, so I’m trying to enjoy it while it lasts!
- hutzlibu 5y ago"but it's not long before they see you on the laptop or whatever and want to get up in your lap." And do you feel, you always have to obey to your childs wishes? Don't you think it is important to learn for them,to respect other peoples wishes, too? It is an ongoing struggle, of course, but after I started to pay more attention to my needs and be consequent about it, even if he goes hysterical - it became a lot easier for all of us. He can now (2 years) accept a no, if it is a real no.
- lotsofpulp 5y agoI don’t necessarily obey them, but I find it difficult to work when a toddler is going crazy around you.