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> Those years were the loneliest of my life. What did you change to turn this around?
by LeonM 5y ago
> Those years were the loneliest of my life.
What did you change to turn this around?
- mylons 5y agoThanks for asking. I started therapy, and left. I moved to Tahoe in 2019, where I had actually made a few friends due to skiing ~40 days a year or so while in SF. I ran into some friendly people at an Alpine Meadows pass holder party awhile ago, struck up a conversation over a Blackhawks jersey and life in Chicago. Something that might happen in SF all the time, but would rarely if ever lead to a relationship. The hardest thing for me, still, is I'm working at a company that has a similar vibe to an SF tech company with a lot of people moving here or our other office for the job. That sets up the transactional/ephemeral relationships from work. It's very hard for me to distance myself from getting self worth out of my work and relationships at work, but I must do that. The "I must do that," is an insight from therapy.