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Something I haven't seen in the comments, yet, is that kids are truly a one-way decision. I knew this before I went into it, but the repercussions didn't really

Something I haven't seen in the comments, yet, is that kids are truly a one-way decision. I knew this before I went into it, but the repercussions didn't really hit me until after we brought the kid into the world. You will find out things about your spouse and yourself that you never knew about, but your kid will have inherited them. Some of these things are attractive features, others are not. You might have to figure out how to deal with a feature of your kid that is not attractive. Some of these things can be fixed in post, others, not so much. Some of these possibilities include genetic diseases, which absolutely no one deserves, but do happen. Having a kid is an enormously brave and risky decision. You roll the dice and you get what you get. There's no going back. Edit: All that said, I do not regret my decision, even though I've been exhausted for coming up on two years and so has my wife. When it's bad, it's the worst. When it's good, it's the best. You will find yourself capable of more patience and resilience than you ever thought possible.

elite_hackers3 5y ago
it's as brave as "travelling" or "applying to business school" - it's just another experience to be consumed.
- slumdev 5y ago
  Having travelled, gone to grad school, and had kids, I can assure you that kids are more challenging and more rewarding than either of the other two. Describing the decision to have a family as "another experience to be consumed" betrays an otherworldly level of antinatalist smugness.
  - elite_hackers3 5y ago
    The fact that you compared the experiences and concluded that having kids is the more rewarding one - pretty much proves my point. There was no need to do it and yet you did it anyway…
    - slumdev 5y ago
      If this is some kind of weird incel troll humor, I'm not getting the joke. Going around and telling parents that they didn't need to have their children is inflammatory. You'll have a much better time if you learn not to say things like that.
rognjen 5y ago
> Some of these things can be fixed in post Excellent turn of phrase. Some of the bugs will have to be fixed in production but some technical debt you'll just be stuck with.

elite_hackers3 5y ago

it's as brave as "travelling" or "applying to business school" - it's just another experience to be consumed.

slumdev 5y ago
Having travelled, gone to grad school, and had kids, I can assure you that kids are more challenging and more rewarding than either of the other two. Describing the decision to have a family as "another experience to be consumed" betrays an otherworldly level of antinatalist smugness.
- elite_hackers3 5y ago
  The fact that you compared the experiences and concluded that having kids is the more rewarding one - pretty much proves my point. There was no need to do it and yet you did it anyway…
  - slumdev 5y ago
    If this is some kind of weird incel troll humor, I'm not getting the joke. Going around and telling parents that they didn't need to have their children is inflammatory. You'll have a much better time if you learn not to say things like that.

rognjen 5y ago

> Some of these things can be fixed in post Excellent turn of phrase. Some of the bugs will have to be fixed in production but some technical debt you'll just be stuck with.