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Your hobbies will lose.

blacktriangle 5y ago
They'll come back. Little kids are incredibly time intensive, but once your youngest hits 6 or so and starts having their own interests, friends, hobbies, sleep overs, you'll start getting a lot of that free time back, and if you're lucky you can even start sharing hobbies with your kids.
- lotsofpulp 5y ago
  My parents and grandparents comment that all the younger people today have to spend a lot more time with their kids than they ever did. They said they had 3 and 4 and 5 kids and once they were walking, they were outside in the village with other kids and older siblings/cousins and they didn’t see them again until they got hungry. Or maybe they ate at a neighbor’s house. Either way, parenting of little kids definitely takes more time and effort than previous generations.
  - blacktriangle 5y ago
    This hits on an interesting point, the more kids in your general life, not just your own but among your family, friends and neighbors, the easier having more kids is. Its interesting in the tit suggests population growth is hard to find a stable equilibrium and instead groups would be expected to oscillate between growing too fast and shrinking.
    - lotsofpulp 5y ago
      You also have to live near friends and family, not be in an area with cars, and live close enough to each other to be able to walk. The design of modern suburbs precludes most of this, as does moving around for job opportunities/schools with greater proportions of richer kids. Therefore this previously near zero cost activity of raising toddlers becomes a $15k+ per year expense for just daycare, on top of the time you personally have to attend to them at home.
- satisfice 5y ago
  My son mobbed me all the time until he turned 12 and a half. What happened then? He started online gaming. I have had peace and quiet ever since. He met his wife while gaming, and now they’ve been married six years. A family that plays together stays together.

They'll come back. Little kids are incredibly time intensive, but once your youngest hits 6 or so and starts having their own interests, friends, hobbies, sleep overs, you'll start getting a lot of that free time back, and if you're lucky you can even start sharing hobbies with your kids.

lotsofpulp 5y ago
My parents and grandparents comment that all the younger people today have to spend a lot more time with their kids than they ever did. They said they had 3 and 4 and 5 kids and once they were walking, they were outside in the village with other kids and older siblings/cousins and they didn’t see them again until they got hungry. Or maybe they ate at a neighbor’s house. Either way, parenting of little kids definitely takes more time and effort than previous generations.
- blacktriangle 5y ago
  This hits on an interesting point, the more kids in your general life, not just your own but among your family, friends and neighbors, the easier having more kids is. Its interesting in the tit suggests population growth is hard to find a stable equilibrium and instead groups would be expected to oscillate between growing too fast and shrinking.
  - lotsofpulp 5y ago
    You also have to live near friends and family, not be in an area with cars, and live close enough to each other to be able to walk. The design of modern suburbs precludes most of this, as does moving around for job opportunities/schools with greater proportions of richer kids. Therefore this previously near zero cost activity of raising toddlers becomes a $15k+ per year expense for just daycare, on top of the time you personally have to attend to them at home.
satisfice 5y ago
My son mobbed me all the time until he turned 12 and a half. What happened then? He started online gaming. I have had peace and quiet ever since. He met his wife while gaming, and now they’ve been married six years. A family that plays together stays together.