I'm not tluyben2 and really interested in his secret, but here's what helped me most: – not taking what my inner critic says too literal. I imagine someone els

I'm not tluyben2 and really interested in his secret, but here's what helped me most: – not taking what my inner critic says too literal. I imagine someone else saying such critical things to me – it would be ridiculous and I'd tell them to go to hell. So I just accept that something fuels my inner critic and take care of it in a different way. – enjoying the little things in front of me instead of obsessing about processes which outcomes I can't control. This has a purely hedonistical side too: I can focus on the pure pleasure on squashing this software bug. My food tastes so much better if I actively taste it. When I look outside the window, I see trees moving in the wind or some other tiny movement. It would be laughable to even try to imagine a world where I control the wind in the trees, so why obsess about other complex things outside my control? – do some imagination/self hypnosis exercise. Write them for myself. Some (lizard) parts of our brains can't distinguish between imagination and reality, so it's exactly these parts that get anxious/stressed. I find it helpful to just dictate some calming exercise (a story how everything goes right) and listen to it in a relaxed state. It works really well since it's my own voice. I wrote an exercise for a friend and just yesterday did a recording of it: https://rybakov.com/blog/being_an_octopus/ https://rybakov.com/blog/being_an_octopus/