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You don’t pick pronouns for your own use, but always for others to refer to you. When was the last time you talked about yourself in the third person?

• johncessna 6y ago
  I was just commenting on what the argument was. When someone tells you what their pronouns are and then you're expected to use said pronouns, then that's where people feel they're being forced to use specific pronouns. But since you asked, no I don't talk about myself in the third person.
  • zxzax 6y ago
    I mean yes, you are forced to accept the preferred pronouns when referring to any person. Where is that not already an expectation? When I was young, there was a particularly tall and broad-shouldered girl in one of my classes that some of the bullies used to call a boy. They would intentionally say he/him when referring to this girl. She obviously did not like that. Is it wrong of the teacher to punish them for doing this, forcing them to use the correct pronouns?
    • retsibsi 6y ago
      This is a good example, I think. Just about everyone insists that other people use their preferred pronouns; it's just that most of us are lucky enough that ~everyone automatically does so. If you would complain if a colleague persistently referred to you as 'she' (if you're a man) or 'he' (if you're a woman), your real argument is not that nobody should be 'forced' to use a certain set of pronouns when referring to another person.
  • howinteresting 6y ago
    As a matter of public policy, in a professional setting, it is appropriate that you be required to use the name and pronouns people ask you to use. These are matters of basic identity, and if you have a religious objection to it that's a matter between you and your god(s). You don't get to externalize the costs of your religious beliefs onto other people. Deliberate misgendering is harassment.