You have to start somewhere but it will involve pain. No matter what you do. You also have to be willing to let go of everything you think you "can't live wit

You have to start somewhere but it will involve pain. No matter what you do. You also have to be willing to let go of everything you think you "can't live without". Likely that means being willing to dump/avoid women and/or no longer being an over-extended financially by expenses like having mortgage and run-up credit cards. You will fail - that's 100% NECESSARY to learn enough to succeed to not fail. So you have to deal with losing these things. Women don't care about your struggles; they only care about standing at the finish lines and picking the winners. I was forced into it by Silicon Valley age-discrimination - I had to find a way to pay my bills, but every company was telling me I wasn't a good "cultural fit". I was also seeing this when I was passed over for promotion by yes-men who have demonstrably worse track records and lower IQ. My "lack of cultural fit" was both reaching an age where I no longer gave a shit about "playing the game" and realizing I was smarter than my bosses. I ended up losing my marriage as a result of jumping off - she didn't want someone struggling to make something better - she only wanted a winner. I had been one but it collapsed on me and she has zero fucks for that. Eventually I lost another marriage but after that, I had only my own spending to worry about and my own lifestyle needs to meet which were far cheaper than what most women will put up with. You can only succeed as being self-employed or sole proprietor or an entrepreneur if you are willing to lose everything and still claw back to try again. I sold one of my companies a few years back and that pretty much set me up for several more companies I had in mind. They involve things I love and that are in demand so they will make money. That's how you win. It's ONLY about you, and never we.