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Meh. Reading the accounts of one of the allegations, it reads true. I was in a similar situation with someone everyone on HN knows, feeling the exact way she di
by junon 6y ago
Meh. Reading the accounts of one of the allegations, it reads true. I was in a similar situation with someone everyone on HN knows, feeling the exact way she did, running the same exact thoughts through my head.
The other conversation about this on HN is dumb. "We should be talking to our kids about sex awareness" or whatever. Yes, sure, do that. But that's not the issue here.
I used to help teach sexual education to the local gay community in my hometown. I'm no stranger to dodgy situations and being taken advantage of, even before the incident with this individual.
I was aware of what was happening, generally have a pretty strong head, and still felt trapped and that I had to go through with it in the moment.
It's not one of those things that has a simple, black and white solution. If it were that easy we wouldn't see as much sexual abuse in the world as we do. This kind of thing is nuanced and hard to understand unless you've lived it.
- sneak 6y agoIt is possible for any skilled writer to write something fictional that "reads true". This statement is of no bearing to the merits of this specific case, just that something sounding true and truth being two distinct things. I don't know these accusers or this accused. I have no basis from which to evaluate the credibility (or lack thereof) of the initial statements or this rebuttal. I also don't think being a good writer is necessarily correlated with honesty. I really don't think the claim that these sorts of things are hard to understand unless you've lived it is a true one. Most people who have designed and implemented laws against sexcrime have not been victims themselves, for example. Also, from my reading of these accusations, they were accusations of bad behavior and mistreatment, but stopped short of accusing criminal behavior or sexcrime. To that end (there being no obvious claims of criminal behavior by anyone), this isn't my business. Lots of people have relationship drama that idgaf about. If I were a member of this community and someone claimed that someone else in that community broke the law, I might have grounds to care about the outcome. That's not the case here, though. I am just as skeptical of the denial as I am of the accusation: my default level of skepticism applied to strangers on the internet.