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> One of the greatest gifts we have for each other, for our children and spouses, for our teammates, is the positive feedback loop we can put someone into purel

> One of the greatest gifts we have for each other, for our children and spouses, for our teammates, is the positive feedback loop we can put someone into purely by believing in them, by seeing their genius and their dysfunction clearly and then helping them construct conditions for the former to flourish. Beautiful.

RGamma 5y ago
You better enter that positive feedback loop, because if not you will be let go of. The surface sentiment is enablement but there's always a component of "if you don't perform you're screwed" lurking in the background.
flpq 5y ago
"He who can, does; he who cannot, teaches." In general, I think a teacher classifying genius and dysfunction is putting people into boxes and may harm his students more than helping them. I've never encountered a great teacher who talks like that. I've met many people justifying their existence and positions who do talk like that.
- tall 5y ago
  Agreed this article is pedantic without saying much. (Not to insult the author, I write in similar fashion and so do lots of other people)
- watwut 5y ago
  > He who can, does; he who cannot, teaches. And the one who cant teach, complains about teachers. In my experience people who say the above are unable to teach anybody anything.
- beaconstudios 5y ago
  we're all contextually geniuses or dysfunctional - I think the thing the writer is advocating for is trying to find the right context based on an attempt at an accurate assessment of the person, and how you might go about assessing people.
- d0mine 5y ago
  It reminds me of an experiment where genius were assigned at random among schoolchildren and how it affected their results (only because teachers thought they geniuses). https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2012/09/18/161159263/teachers-expectations-can-influence-how-students-perform https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2012/09/18/1611592...
bhrgunatha 5y ago
I used to teach children whose internal state is generally easier to assess than adults. I remember watching as one kid said to another "I believe in you" to help out in some moment of crisis. It struck me as odd - something cheesy they'd (probably) heard in a movie or cartoon. But if they are saying that to each other then I could probably use it to communicate better with them as long as it was sincere. I'd say it sparingly when I thought it might be appropriate or helpful. The reactions were surprising to me, not at the time I said it, but later on. I'm not suggesting I was a major influence that sets kids on the right track, but I think it helped out somewhat and for some reason that specific phrase seemed much more powerful than other forms of encouragement.
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intergalplan 5y ago
This is pretty much what the show Ted Lasso is all about. I think it's the key reason people find it so wholesome and charming.

RGamma 5y ago

You better enter that positive feedback loop, because if not you will be let go of. The surface sentiment is enablement but there's always a component of "if you don't perform you're screwed" lurking in the background.

flpq 5y ago

"He who can, does; he who cannot, teaches." In general, I think a teacher classifying genius and dysfunction is putting people into boxes and may harm his students more than helping them. I've never encountered a great teacher who talks like that. I've met many people justifying their existence and positions who do talk like that.

tall 5y ago
Agreed this article is pedantic without saying much. (Not to insult the author, I write in similar fashion and so do lots of other people)
watwut 5y ago
> He who can, does; he who cannot, teaches. And the one who cant teach, complains about teachers. In my experience people who say the above are unable to teach anybody anything.
beaconstudios 5y ago
we're all contextually geniuses or dysfunctional - I think the thing the writer is advocating for is trying to find the right context based on an attempt at an accurate assessment of the person, and how you might go about assessing people.
d0mine 5y ago
It reminds me of an experiment where genius were assigned at random among schoolchildren and how it affected their results (only because teachers thought they geniuses). https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2012/09/18/161159263/teachers-expectations-can-influence-how-students-perform https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2012/09/18/1611592...

bhrgunatha 5y ago

I used to teach children whose internal state is generally easier to assess than adults. I remember watching as one kid said to another "I believe in you" to help out in some moment of crisis. It struck me as odd - something cheesy they'd (probably) heard in a movie or cartoon. But if they are saying that to each other then I could probably use it to communicate better with them as long as it was sincere. I'd say it sparingly when I thought it might be appropriate or helpful. The reactions were surprising to me, not at the time I said it, but later on. I'm not suggesting I was a major influence that sets kids on the right track, but I think it helped out somewhat and for some reason that specific phrase seemed much more powerful than other forms of encouragement.

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intergalplan 5y ago

This is pretty much what the show Ted Lasso is all about. I think it's the key reason people find it so wholesome and charming.