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I think you cut the list a bit. As an thought experiment try to think that your husband/wife does those things with somebody (accepts invitation to sleep in th
by mirekrusin 6y ago
I think you cut the list a bit.
As an thought experiment try to think that your husband/wife does those things with somebody (accepts invitation to sleep in the same airbnb, without anybody else, with single opposite sex, bringing bottle of wine) - would you be worried? And if yes, why? Is it not even remotely possible that somebody would feel weird about their partner doing it?
- foldr 6y agoOne thing you’re missing here is that sexual consent is an ‘in the moment’ thing. Someone might be coming over to your place fully intending to have sex with you and then change their mind. You have to respect that.
- mirekrusin 6y agoAbsolutely, agree. One thing you may be missing is that description doesn't mention anything like that happening and the opportunity to mention it is right there. Why wouldn't this be mentioned if it happened?
- Pfhreak 6y agoIt literally mentions she tried to decline but he insisted.
- mirekrusin 6y agoNot in reference to the first event. It says "there was another time that he insisted ..." which unfortunatelly forms ambiguous sentence, it's not clear if it happened or he just insisted and that's it. Later paragraph reads "I maintained friendship with him for a few months after May, because I was convinced that it was all consensual ...". I'm not a lawyer but the case of "being convinced of consent" at one time and after few months changing mind about the situation and realising it was not a consent makes an interesting case.