> For the women as the options are pre-filtered and for the men as there is less competition noise I mostly go into and create circumstances where the same is

> For the women as the options are pre-filtered and for the men as there is less competition noise I mostly go into and create circumstances where the same is true of the women, pre-filtered. One thing I liked about being on my promoter acquaintances' VIP tables is that the women also at the table have been pre-filtered like 4 or 5 times before I ever see them. 1. State department -> 2. Host family (with heavy input choice by the husband) -> 3. Promoter -> 4. Doorman (who would definitely reject guys and gals alike, no matter what name they dropped) -> 5. me. So yes in that environment, there is also even less competition noise amongst men, because we wouldn't ever fight over a woman given the quantity and only chuckle at our predictably similar preferences if a pattern emerged. But, the selective evolution at play is much more extreme than the general population or the rest of the club. and yeah, that also allows us to inherit the social validation and assumptions about our ability to provide that many women would also look for, which would be convenient enough to never think about. In quantity, some people are just more forward and assertive than others, so with a lot of women now competing for attention instead of men, this has been a much more optimal use of energy for men. Occasionally relationships are nice too, this wasn't about that.