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This is a bit old-fashioned... "Getting drunk with friends" is an in-person activity. The point isn't getting drunk, the point is to socialize with barriers of

This is a bit old-fashioned... "Getting drunk with friends" is an in-person activity. The point isn't getting drunk, the point is to socialize with barriers of anxiety and inhibitions lowered. There are plenty of people who want to ensure physical compatibility for a long term relationship as much as emotional one. Society deems one "shallow", but for many people sex is a crucial aspect of any relationship, and just because they are willing to sleep with someone liberally does not mean they are also not interested in something deeper.

CoastalCoder 6y ago
Sorry for the tangent, but can someone elaborate on what it means to be "physically compatible"? I'm assuming it doesn't mean being capable of basic sexual activity, because that seems like a given for 90% of potential couples. I.e., not something you'd really need to "test". And if it means "capable of giving each other a really enjoyable sexual experience", I wouldn't think that's something you can falsify in just 1-2 dates. Because there's a learning curve, and that takes (among other things) time and practice.
- Mediterraneo10 6y ago
  > I'm assuming it doesn't mean being capable of basic sexual activity, because that seems like a given for 90% of potential couples I would suspect that more than 10% of women complain about a male partner being unwilling to perform oral sex on them, or bad at it, even though this might be very important for them and the main way they can orgasm. Men, too, complain about women’s ability or receptiveness to things they need for satisfying sex.
- deanCommie 6y ago
  That answer heavily depends on the individual. Of course, some folks have very specific needs an interests, and need a certain amount of intimacy and comfort before getting there. And they absolutely should! My broad point was that it's not universal. And for a lot of people "sexual chemistry" is something they want to evaluate from the very beginning. Even they will probably admit that it takes more than 1 or 2 attempts to validate.
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- throway98752343 6y ago
  People rarely buy a car advertised as "capable of basic transportation" but even so you might be surprised how often it struggles to get into gear or is obnoxiously loud or has unadvertised kinks in its coolant lines, so a test drive is a good idea. You can't easily tell whether a car will get better or worse the more you drive it, but you can tell when a car is immediately fun to drive. Start with the car that's fun to drive and hope it gets better (with proper care and maintenance) not worse.

CoastalCoder 6y ago

Sorry for the tangent, but can someone elaborate on what it means to be "physically compatible"? I'm assuming it doesn't mean being capable of basic sexual activity, because that seems like a given for 90% of potential couples. I.e., not something you'd really need to "test". And if it means "capable of giving each other a really enjoyable sexual experience", I wouldn't think that's something you can falsify in just 1-2 dates. Because there's a learning curve, and that takes (among other things) time and practice.

Mediterraneo10 6y ago
> I'm assuming it doesn't mean being capable of basic sexual activity, because that seems like a given for 90% of potential couples I would suspect that more than 10% of women complain about a male partner being unwilling to perform oral sex on them, or bad at it, even though this might be very important for them and the main way they can orgasm. Men, too, complain about women’s ability or receptiveness to things they need for satisfying sex.
deanCommie 6y ago
That answer heavily depends on the individual. Of course, some folks have very specific needs an interests, and need a certain amount of intimacy and comfort before getting there. And they absolutely should! My broad point was that it's not universal. And for a lot of people "sexual chemistry" is something they want to evaluate from the very beginning. Even they will probably admit that it takes more than 1 or 2 attempts to validate.
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throway98752343 6y ago
People rarely buy a car advertised as "capable of basic transportation" but even so you might be surprised how often it struggles to get into gear or is obnoxiously loud or has unadvertised kinks in its coolant lines, so a test drive is a good idea. You can't easily tell whether a car will get better or worse the more you drive it, but you can tell when a car is immediately fun to drive. Start with the car that's fun to drive and hope it gets better (with proper care and maintenance) not worse.