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The charges of the venue itself might be higher for the men but women usually spend a lot more time and money on makeup, care products, hair dressers, nails, cl

by est31 6y ago

The charges of the venue itself might be higher for the men but women usually spend a lot more time and money on makeup, care products, hair dressers, nails, clothing, etc. Also note that when you go with a traditional "man is the provider" model, then being in an environment where men have demonstrated their provider ability is beneficial for both parties. For the women as the options are pre-filtered and for the men as there is less competition noise. As for dating apps/online dating... if you look at user statistics you see a strong gender imbalance, so apparently men want to use them far more than women do. I've heard this situation expressed in terms of those apps being less appealing to women than they are to men. However, due to the imbalance, the premise of these apps is essentially broken for most male users.

P_I_Staker 6y ago
> women usually spend a lot more time and money on makeup, care products, hair dressers, nails, clothing, etc. I don't think they really do that "to get a man", though
vmception 6y ago
> For the women as the options are pre-filtered and for the men as there is less competition noise I mostly go into and create circumstances where the same is true of the women, pre-filtered. One thing I liked about being on my promoter acquaintances' VIP tables is that the women also at the table have been pre-filtered like 4 or 5 times before I ever see them. 1. State department -> 2. Host family (with heavy input choice by the husband) -> 3. Promoter -> 4. Doorman (who would definitely reject guys and gals alike, no matter what name they dropped) -> 5. me. So yes in that environment, there is also even less competition noise amongst men, because we wouldn't ever fight over a woman given the quantity and only chuckle at our predictably similar preferences if a pattern emerged. But, the selective evolution at play is much more extreme than the general population or the rest of the club. and yeah, that also allows us to inherit the social validation and assumptions about our ability to provide that many women would also look for, which would be convenient enough to never think about. In quantity, some people are just more forward and assertive than others, so with a lot of women now competing for attention instead of men, this has been a much more optimal use of energy for men. Occasionally relationships are nice too, this wasn't about that.

by est31 6y ago

P_I_Staker 6y ago

> women usually spend a lot more time and money on makeup, care products, hair dressers, nails, clothing, etc. I don't think they really do that "to get a man", though

vmception 6y ago

> For the women as the options are pre-filtered and for the men as there is less competition noise I mostly go into and create circumstances where the same is true of the women, pre-filtered. One thing I liked about being on my promoter acquaintances' VIP tables is that the women also at the table have been pre-filtered like 4 or 5 times before I ever see them. 1. State department -> 2. Host family (with heavy input choice by the husband) -> 3. Promoter -> 4. Doorman (who would definitely reject guys and gals alike, no matter what name they dropped) -> 5. me. So yes in that environment, there is also even less competition noise amongst men, because we wouldn't ever fight over a woman given the quantity and only chuckle at our predictably similar preferences if a pattern emerged. But, the selective evolution at play is much more extreme than the general population or the rest of the club. and yeah, that also allows us to inherit the social validation and assumptions about our ability to provide that many women would also look for, which would be convenient enough to never think about. In quantity, some people are just more forward and assertive than others, so with a lot of women now competing for attention instead of men, this has been a much more optimal use of energy for men. Occasionally relationships are nice too, this wasn't about that.