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The funny thing some of the observations described in the post is so true despite being 10+ years old. When I first started online dating five years ago, I put
by colmvp 5y ago
The funny thing some of the observations described in the post is so true despite being 10+ years old.
When I first started online dating five years ago, I put in a ton of effort in my replies/messages, except I rarely got any replies. That was pretty sobering.
I still put effort in my replies/messages, but I got used to just one or two sentences rather than an actual paragraph.
A good female friend of mine complains about how guys in online dating can barely hold a conversation. I have said to her, you have no idea how many messages your average or below-average (in terms of physical attractiveness) male has to send to get a date, let alone a response in the first place.
- xiphias2 5y agoThe fact is that almost only photos matter, so the same time that you put into thinking of replies is better spent in the gym.
- scythe 5y agoOnly photos are trustworthy. You can even hire someone to have conversations with you. You can use a fake photo, too, but your date will leave immediately. The market for lemons isn't any sweeter from the seller's point of view.
- colmvp 5y agoI was very physically fit when I started online dating. The reality is that there are a number of variables you really can't change, at least without surgery which I realize is done in places like South Korea. You can't completely change your face structure, male pattern baldness, ethnicity, or height.
- CoastalCoder 5y ago> male pattern baldness One thing you can control is how you respond to male-pattern baldness. At two extremes: comb-over vs. shave your head. Maybe it's just wishful thinking, but I imagine women prefer one of those options over the other.
- xiphias2 5y agoI'm thinking of doing a hair transplant, although as I got white hair at the same time when I got partly bold, I wouldn't get the same amount of benefits of looking younger as my friends.
- weird-eye-issue 5y agoYeah a paragraph is way, way too much. Probably made you look desperate. Stick to a sentence